Understanding Family and Domestic Violence
‘Exiting or feeling an abuse relationship can be dangerous Fear is another reason for not acting, changing or fleeing.’
- Domestic violence is prevalent, and impacting on all areas of life including workplaces, families, and communities.
- We not only need to be sensitive to it, but we all have a role to play to prevent , stop, and promote safety.
- In the workplace violence contributes to stress, fear, Absenteeism, poor performance and lessened safety.
- Other forms of violence include Child abuse which leads to negative long-term effects and consequences on victims, impacting on:
○ Self-esteem and confidence
○ Mental health and behaviour
○ Establishing healthy relationships and communications
- Attitudes established patterns of communicating and behaviours are key contributors to violence. But Drugs and alcohol can predicate violence
- People remain in abusive relationships for a multitude of reasons that relate to cultural, religious beliefs and financial security.
The Relationship Continuum
Relationships are fluid, have their ups-and-downs, go through times of pressure and stress, and never ‘perfect’.
Domestic and family violence can be defined as an act of violence, intimidation and coercion that occur between people in an intimate relationship. Impact family members, between partners or violence towards and from children.
By its nature Domestic and Family Violence can be:
Characteristics of Violence and Abuse
Adapted from the ‘Power and Control’ Wheel (Minnesota Program Development, Duluth, 1980)
The Cycle of Violence
Violence generally fluctuates between relative calm and an explosion of abuse and goes through various phases, intensity, with some phases overlapping (Dr Lenore Walker, 1979)
|PHASE||VICTIM BEHAVIOUR||PERPETRATOR BEHAVIOUR|
|Honeymoon||Sets up counselling sessions, stop’s legal proceedings, agrees to return, forgives, hopeful, relieved and happy.||Demonstrates caring, attentive and romantic attitude.|
|Build-up||Attempts to stay calm, tries to reason and to satisfy.||Tension, harassment and arguments on the rise.|
|Stand-over||Agrees with avoidance, withdraws, is compliant and nurturing.||Control and threats, instils fear in victims and children.|
|Explosion||Receiver of extreme abuse, aggression and violence.||Peretrates extreme abuse, aggression and violence.|
|Remorse||Feels isolated withdraws, support from others.||Attempts to justify/ minimise actions, blames victim, may include threats of self-harm.|
|Pursuit||Justifies perpetrating behaviour||Promises that it will not happen again, becomes the ‘victim’, blames other factors (alcohol).|
Human capital resources online, November 2015
Something for Managers and Teams to practice
Concierge Model developed by Gino Carrafa – Consultant Psychologist D’Accord Managing Director – 2017
Barriers for Disclosure
There are two categories:
Lack of Trust
“No will believe me”
“I will be blamed”
“How will I survive Financially”
“Who will support me”
- Sit and listen to the persons story.
- Provide resources and make the call to either EAP or 1800 RESPECT together with the person you are helping.
- Go to the appointment with them to support or be there to make the call.
- Follow up with the person and ask how they went with the call or meeting.
- Create a safety plan with our help at D’Accord PHS OAS.
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