White dove - Domestic Violence

"In Victoria, about 48% of individuals have disclosed being a victim to their managers,
and only 10% of victims find managers responses helpful and supportive."

– Human Capital Resources Online, November 2015

Understanding Family and Domestic Violence

‘Exiting or feeling an abuse relationship can be dangerous. Fear is another reason for not acting, changing or fleeing.’

 Important Considerations

  • Domestic violence is prevalent, and impacting on all areas of life including workplaces, families, and communities.
  • We not only need to be sensitive to it, but we all have a role to play to prevent , stop, and promote safety.
  • In the workplace violence contributes to stress, fear, Absenteeism, poor performance and lessened safety.
  • Other forms of violence include Child abuse which leads to negative long-term effects and consequences on victims, impacting on:
     ○ Self-esteem and confidence
     ○ Mental health and behaviour
     ○ Establishing healthy relationships and communications
  • Attitudes established patterns of communicating and behaviours are key contributors to violence, but drugs and alcohol can predicate violence.
  • People remain in abusive relationships for a multitude of reasons that relate to cultural, religious beliefs and financial security.

The Relationship Continuum

Relationships are fluid, have their ups-and-downs, go through times of pressure and stress, and never ‘perfect’.

Domestic and family violence can be defined as an act of violence, intimidation and coercion that occur between people in an intimate relationship.  Impact family members, between partners or violence towards and from children.

By its nature Domestic and Family Violence can be:

  • Physical
  • Sexual
  • Emotional
  • Psychological
  • Financial

Characteristics of Violence and Abuse

Adapted from the ‘Power and Control’ Wheel (Minnesota Program Development, Duluth, 1980)

The Cycle of Violence

Violence generally fluctuates between relative calm and an explosion of abuse and goes through various phases, intensity, with some phases overlapping  (Dr Lenore Walker, 1979)

relationships
PHASEVICTIM BEHAVIOURPERPETRATOR BEHAVIOUR
HoneymoonSets up counselling sessions, stop’s legal proceedings, agrees to return, forgives, hopeful, relieved and happy.Demonstrates caring, attentive and romantic attitude.
Build-upAttempts to stay calm, tries to reason and to satisfy.Tension, harassment and arguments on the rise.
Stand-overAgrees with avoidance, withdraws, is compliant and nurturing.Control and threats, instils fear in victims and children.
ExplosionReceiver of extreme abuse, aggression and violence.Peretrates extreme abuse, aggression and violence.
RemorseFeels isolated withdraws, support from others.Attempts to justify/ minimise actions, blames victim, may include threats of self-harm.
PursuitJustifies perpetrating behaviourPromises that it will not happen again, becomes the ‘victim’, blames other factors (alcohol).

Something for Managers and Teams to practice

Concierge Model developed by Gino Carrafa – Consultant Psychologist D’Accord Managing Director – 2017

Barriers for Disclosure

There are two categories

Emotions

Shame
Embarrassment
Responsibility
Guilt
Mental Health
Lack of Trust

Thoughts

“No will believe me”
“I will be blamed”
“How will I survive Financially”
“Who will support me”

Tips

  • Sit and listen to the persons story.
  • Provide resources and make the call to either EAP or 1800 RESPECT together with the person you are helping.
  • Go to the appointment with the to support or be there to make the call.
  • Follow up with the person and ask how they went with the call or meeting.
  • Create a safety plan with our help at D'accord OAS.

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